THE MAIN REASON YOU CAN'T FIND A GOOD MAN

by Corey Black

I wrote a piece a couple of years ago that goes as follows:

"You been looking for Mr. Right for so long, 
that you can't help but to keep running into Mr. Wrong.
Last song, last chance, you won't get another chance,
For you, there are no flowers, candy, or romance.
God has plans for you, but you're trying to write another one,
You're trying to get over one man by getting under another one.
No wonder you are so consistent with your strikes,
You keep on missing, this is why you'll be a Miss for the rest of your life..."

I went on to say some other very specific things, but we won't get into that right now. I really wanted to focus on THE MAIN REASON YOU CAN'T FIND A GOOD MAN. There is a very simple explanation to this: Good men are not to be found, they are too busy looking for good women. Pow. That's it, that's as simple as I can say it, but this will still go over some heads, so I will try my best to break this down. If this offends you in anyway, then find the nearest mirror and evaluate the reflection.

First off, let's acknowledge the top 15 things that makes good man:
(In no particular order)
1. Listener
2. Loving
3. Caring
4. Faithful

5. Honest
6. Respectful
7. Loyal

8. God-Fearing

9. Responsible
10. Supportive
11. Financially Stable
12. Dependable
13. Romantic
14. Thoughtful
15. Committed


These are the things women want in a man. The reason I know this is because these are the things I have been told I've needed to be in every single relationship I have ever been in. I'll admit, I've fallen short of glory many times, but mainly because I just felt like I wasn't with the right person that actually deserved all of that from me. Amazingly, I found a person that can get all of that... let me say that again: Amazingly I FOUND a person that can get all of that. The beauty of it is that I didn't have to look very hard to find her, she was always around, I just didn't notice her until it was time.

Everybody's situation is different, but guess what, men are the same. All men think the same way. We are not checking for the chick that takes a billion pictures of herself everyday to keep her instagram popping. We want the classy woman that is discreet about her personal life. No man has time to get in a relationship with a self-absorbed women, we ain't built like that. On top of that, a woman that expresses how bad she wants to be in a relationship is a RED FLAG to every man, and that goes both ways. It will attract the thirsty guys that only want sex because they see you are desperate, and it will ward off the cool fellas that have mentally labeled you as an attention whore and possible "Clinger".

This includes posting pics of cleavage, half naked photos, thirst-filled song lyrics, struggle meal pics, tweets about Brazilian waxes, etc. No dude wants to be a part of that life, and if they do, it'll only be to have fun. After all the fun though, guess what, he's gonna proceed to look for what he never saw in you: A good woman. Now, don't take this the wrong way, a good woman is fun too. Actually, its more fun to have a whole entire relationship with the right person than it is to kick it with a woman that just wants to "hang out". Men want this, and we will search the Earth high and low for this. Finding the right woman is better than finding the rarest of diamonds. We live for this search, and yes, we do fall victim of being sidetracked by distractions. Distractions are what some people prefer to call "hoes"-even though she may not be having sex with a lot of men, she still wants a lot of men to show her some attention and goes out of her way to be seen. Those are tendencies that men pick up on and see right pass it.

Be the type of woman that a man has to search for, not Google search for. Every social network isn't eHarmony. Be mysterious and leave something for our imagination. Us men are very peculiar creatures, but we are very simple. We live by an unwritten guy code, and a lot of women are in violation. I hope this post helps some.

So think twice before you take that picture of yourself making a "Kissie face", no man wants a woman that stuck on herself.


Peace

POEM #139

by Corey Black

Maybe I stayed up this late for a reason.

 I could be sleep next to the woman of my dreams, but instead I am awake.  

Both televisions are on two different channels, but I’m not watching anything in particular.

 I have my headphones are on, but there is no music playing. 

I just like the way the ear buds feel. 

I want to start playing a song, but I can’t decide what I’m in the mood for. 

If I stall long enough, maybe God will whisper something remarkable and I get a chance to hear it.

 The ceiling fan is wobbling, but I can’t feel a breeze. 

The air conditioner refuses to kick on. 

I’m not hot at all. 

Summer is always beautiful, but the heat is horrid.

Time just stood still. 

Must be the full moon having her way with me.

I wish I learned to play the piano.

 I would title every ballad “Aginah”. 

Love keeps me up late. 

This won’t make sense until the end, I’m sure. 

It will finish the way it began. 

Autumn will be so nice this year. 

This planet has had me for three decades. 

I pray the winter isn’t too cold.  

I just heard the most beautiful silence. 

Patience is so lazy, but she is always on time. 

My ears itch, does my ego ever sleep? 

Exodus is such a beautiful song. 

Bob Marley was a king.

I’m blessed to be black, I always feel connected to the beginning of time. 

It’s time for me to take in her scent and rest. 

Glad I stayed up this late. 

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HAPPY JUNETEENTH

By the President of the United States of America:

A Proclamation.

Whereas, on the twenty-second day of September, in the year of our Lord one thousand eight hundred and sixty-two, a proclamation was issued by the President of the United States, containing, among other things, the following, to wit:

"That on the first day of January, in the year of our Lord one thousand eight hundred and sixty-three, all persons held as slaves within any State or designated part of a State, the people whereof shall then be in rebellion against the United States, shall be then, thenceforward, and forever free; and the Executive Government of the United States, including the military and naval authority thereof, will recognize and maintain the freedom of such persons, and will do no act or acts to repress such persons, or any of them, in any efforts they may make for their actual freedom.

"That the Executive will, on the first day of January aforesaid, by proclamation, designate the States and parts of States, if any, in which the people thereof, respectively, shall then be in rebellion against the United States; and the fact that any State, or the people thereof, shall on that day be, in good faith, represented in the Congress of the United States by members chosen thereto at elections wherein a majority of the qualified voters of such State shall have participated, shall, in the absence of strong countervailing testimony, be deemed conclusive evidence that such State, and the people thereof, are not then in rebellion against the United States."

Now, therefore I, Abraham Lincoln, President of the United States, by virtue of the power in me vested as Commander-in-Chief, of the Army and Navy of the United States in time of actual armed rebellion against the authority and government of the United States, and as a fit and necessary war measure for suppressing said rebellion, do, on this first day of January, in the year of our Lord one thousand eight hundred and sixty-three, and in accordance with my purpose so to do publicly proclaimed for the full period of one hundred days, from the day first above mentioned, order and designate as the States and parts of States wherein the people thereof respectively, are this day in rebellion against the United States, the following, to wit:

Arkansas, Texas, Louisiana, (except the Parishes of St. Bernard, Plaquemines, Jefferson, St. John, St. Charles, St. James Ascension, Assumption, Terrebonne, Lafourche, St. Mary, St. Martin, and Orleans, including the City of New Orleans) Mississippi, Alabama, Florida, Georgia, South Carolina, North Carolina, and Virginia, (except the forty-eight counties designated as West Virginia, and also the counties of Berkley, Accomac, Northampton, Elizabeth City, York, Princess Ann, and Norfolk, including the cities of Norfolk and Portsmouth[)], and which excepted parts, are for the present, left precisely as if this proclamation were not issued.

And by virtue of the power, and for the purpose aforesaid, I do order and declare that all persons held as slaves within said designated States, and parts of States, are, and henceforward shall be free; and that the Executive government of the United States, including the military and naval authorities thereof, will recognize and maintain the freedom of said persons.

And I hereby enjoin upon the people so declared to be free to abstain from all violence, unless in necessary self-defence; and I recommend to them that, in all cases when allowed, they labor faithfully for reasonable wages.

And I further declare and make known, that such persons of suitable condition, will be received into the armed service of the United States to garrison forts, positions, stations, and other places, and to man vessels of all sorts in said service.

And upon this act, sincerely believed to be an act of justice, warranted by the Constitution, upon military necessity, I invoke the considerate judgment of mankind, and the gracious favor of Almighty God.

In witness whereof, I have hereunto set my hand and caused the seal of the United States to be affixed.

Done at the City of Washington, this first day of January, in the year of our Lord one thousand eight hundred and sixty three, and of the Independence of the United States of America the eighty-seventh.

By the President: ABRAHAM LINCOLN 
WILLIAM H. SEWARD, Secretary of State.